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Friendship Issues

Friendships play an important role in emotional wellbeing, identity, confidence, and sense of belonging. Difficulties within friendships can therefore feel deeply painful and emotionally overwhelming, particularly when they involve rejection, conflict, exclusion, betrayal, loneliness, or changes in social groups.

 

Friendship difficulties can affect children, teenagers, and adults, and may impact self-esteem, mood, anxiety levels, confidence, and emotional security. Many people struggle silently with social difficulties whilst feeling ashamed, isolated, or worried that they are “too sensitive” or somehow unlikeable.

What can friendship difficulties feel like?

Friendship issues can affect emotions, thoughts, behaviour, and confidence in different ways.

 

Emotional experiences

  • Sadness or loneliness

  • Anxiety about rejection or exclusion

  • Feeling hurt, betrayed, or misunderstood

  • Jealousy or insecurity

  • Low confidence or self-worth

 

Cognitive experiences

  • Overthinking conversations or social interactions

  • Worrying about being disliked or left out

  • Comparing yourself negatively to others

  • Fear of abandonment or rejection

  • Difficulty trusting others

 

Behavioural patterns

  • Withdrawing socially

  • Avoiding social situations

  • People-pleasing to avoid conflict or rejection

  • Becoming overly dependent on friendships

  • Difficulty setting boundaries or expressing needs

 

Physical symptoms

  • Anxiety symptoms in social situations

  • Sleep difficulties linked to worry or overthinking

  • Emotional exhaustion or stress

 

Friendship difficulties can sometimes feel as emotionally painful as romantic relationship difficulties, particularly where there has been betrayal, bullying, exclusion, or the loss of an important friendship.

What can contribute to friendship difficulties?

Friendship struggles can develop for many different reasons, including:

  • Social anxiety or low self-esteem

  • Fear of rejection or abandonment

  • Bullying or previous friendship trauma

  • Difficulties with communication or boundaries

  • Neurodevelopmental differences such as autism or ADHD

  • Changes in schools, workplaces, or life stages

  • Attachment difficulties

  • Feeling different, misunderstood, or socially isolated

 

Some people may also find themselves repeating unhealthy friendship dynamics, such as becoming overly responsible for others, tolerating poor treatment, or struggling to express emotional needs.

How common are friendship difficulties?

Friendship and social difficulties are extremely common across all ages. Social connection is a fundamental human need, and difficulties in friendships can significantly affect emotional wellbeing and mental health. Research consistently links loneliness, social rejection, and relationship stress with increased anxiety, low mood, low self-esteem, and emotional distress.

What treatment do we offer?

Support focuses on understanding relationship patterns, improving communication and emotional awareness, strengthening confidence, and building healthier social connections.

 

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)

CBT may help by:

  • Challenging negative beliefs about yourself and others

  • Reducing social anxiety and overthinking

  • Improving confidence in social situations

  • Developing healthier coping and communication skills

 

Compassion-Focused Therapy (CFT)

CFT can support:

  • Reducing shame and self-criticism

  • Building self-worth and emotional resilience

  • Developing greater self-compassion during social difficulties

 

Schema Therapy

Schema Therapy may involve exploring:

  • Relationship and attachment patterns

  • Fear of rejection, abandonment, or conflict

  • Boundary-setting and communication

  • Emotional vulnerability and trust

 

Support for children and young people

For children and teenagers, friendship difficulties may involve:

  • Bullying or exclusion

  • Friendship group conflict

  • Social anxiety or school-based difficulties

  • Challenges understanding social cues or relationships

 

Support may focus on emotional regulation, confidence-building, communication skills, and creating a stronger sense of belonging and emotional safety.

A compassionate note

Friendship difficulties can leave people feeling lonely, rejected, insecure, or emotionally exhausted. Many individuals blame themselves when relationships become difficult or struggle with fears that they are not “good enough” socially. With support, it is possible to better understand relationship patterns, strengthen confidence and communication, and build healthier, more supportive, and emotionally safe connections with others.

Further support and resources

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