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Whether you're navigating a difficult patch or simply want to prioritise more connection since having children...
The 30-Day Relationship Reset for Parents will help refocus you both on more loving actions and healthier communication, so you can emerge into a new and brighter phase of your relationship.
This course will be of benefit to parents with children of any age.
Life changes when a new baby is brought into a couple relationship. This applies whether it is your first child or your fifth (etc).
Having a baby with someone can make you love your partner in so many new ways, but it can also feel disorienting and it is common to feel like you can’t find yourself, your partner, or any semblance of the relationship you once knew (and happened to really like!). And it doesn't matter how old your "baby" is.
Life with kids can feel chaotic. Did you know that having a baby takes up an estimated extra 30 hours of our lives per week? From when you wake up until you go to bed, you are going pretty much non-stop balancing work, your children, your home etc.
It is understandable that you have little left to give to your partner and may have unknowingly (sometimes even knowingly) neglected your relationship.
Love is shown through our words and actions. Relationships need to be tended to and nurtured for them to survive, let alone thrive. If you don't, it's almost inevitable that you'll feel disconnected – perhaps like housemates, or colleagues whose jobs it is to parent your children together - and deep down, perhaps even unappreciated.
This course will help you find your way in the midst of parenting towards being a couple you can enjoy and love being. If you haven't been prioritising your relationship for a while now, it's okay - you can take steps to make positive changes.
Dr Mollart is an experienced clinical psychologist and a parent herself. She has used her 10 years’ experience as a couple’s therapist to write this course. She has seen that it’s the small, intentional, and consistent actions that make the biggest long term positive impact on relationships.
How It Works
Before you start the course, you will be sent a worksheet with Communication Tips. These are simple suggestions for how to better listen and share your thoughts and feelings with each other. These tips will make you more receptive and effective in your communication styles.
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Every day for 30 days you’ll receive an email from me with 1 of these 2 activities, which will take 1 to 5 minutes to complete:
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A Love Gesture. This is a short, playful gesture that you make towards your partner. These fun and simple tasks are intended to make you both feel more connected, loved, and appreciated and will shake up your usual routine of just managing life’s mundane tasks together. The gestures encompass all 5 love languages: words, acts, quality time, gifts and physical touch.
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A Conversation Starter. These poses thought-provoking questions that aim to develop a deeper and more meaningful understanding of one another. No more generic exchanges about the kids and chores! These conversation starters will help you both get back to the level of emotional intimacy you had before children.
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Take this course for £30 – just £1 per day!
FAQ's
1. What if we barely have any alone time together?
These aren’t complex or time-consuming tasks that will take hours to complete. Designed for the busy and slightly overwhelmed parents, they’re quick but effective ways to show appreciation, express love, and show effort in strengthening the relationship. Each activity takes 1 to 5 minutes - unless you choose to spend longer on them!
2. Can I participate on my own if my partner isn't on board with the course?
Yes - these are individual actions for each partner to take. It will be extra beneficial if you are both doing the daily activities, but you can certainly take the course on your own and both of you should still experience the benefit!
3. Does the cost cover both of us?
The £30 allows you both to participate in the course. You can nominate up to two email addresses to receive the daily prompts/activities, so your partner can participate directly too if they want.
4. What if we miss a day or two?
You get lifetime access to the course. You can simply save the unread emails and open one whenever you and your partner are ready for the next day. We know life happens, but you should always return to prioritising each other when you can!
To start, just fill out this 10-second form:
What sorts of relationship problems warrant Couples Therapy?
Many couples hit a rough patch, when neither of them is getting what they need from the relationship and problems arise. Any number of things can cause this, such as sexual problems, negative emotional states (e.g. depression, anxiety, shame or guilt), unhelpful behaviours (e.g. avoidance, addictions, infidelity), uncertainty about commitment, starting a family or fertility issues, financial problems, work stress or redundancy, when a child is born or leaves home, or a bereavement. However, it is often the couple’s responses to these triggers and their communication styles that can cause further difficulties.
When couples find themselves stuck in a vicious cycle of arguments, where the same grievances are met by the same rebuttals, when blame, resentment and frustration starts to occur, seeking help from an impartial professional can prevent a lot of heartache, before difficult issues get out of hand.
What is involved in Couples Therapy?
The early sessions are exploratory. Initially, we will identify a list of your problem(s) that you want to address. Alongside this, we will develop realistic goals you would like to achieve; these are flexible and reviewed regularly. We will look at each partner’s thoughts and beliefs, childhood, and attachment styles to understand the link to your behaviours towards each other. This helps to conceptualise how your relationship difficulties have developed and what is maintaining those difficulties.
Your therapist will then move onto teaching communication skills that we use as a framework to work through each issue you have brought to therapy. At this point the sessions will become more practical.
Therapy can help a couple to: step back from their difficulties and consider alternative and healthier ways to deal with their problems; relieve stress and improve communication difficulties; manage feelings and conflicts; solve problems, make decisions together and promote acceptance. You will learn strategies to: regulate emotional experience and expression; address your physical relationship, revise perceptions and increase caring behaviours and support.
Marriage preparation sessions
Marriage preparation sessions are designed for engaged couples, couples that would like to explore the idea of getting married, and couples where one or both partners have been married previously and are wishing to build a strong and lasting relationship. Taking time to invest in a relationship’s future enables a couple to move into marriage with their eyes wide open. It allows them to ask the hard questions before tying the knot. Exploring issues both in the present and anticipating those that might arise in the future can be important as couples begin their lives together. The sessions will involve exploring and learning the following:
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Communication – expressing feelings and learning to listen.
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Problem solving and decision making as a couple.
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Making each other feel loved.
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Resolving conflict
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Having a fulfilling sexual relationship
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Understanding and appreciating your differences
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Spending time together
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Recognising the influence of your family background
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Discussing expectations and future goals e.g. children and parenting
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Roles within the relationship
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Having compatible lifestyles
